Some say that we choose for our mates those who remind us of our mothers or fathers, or that because we grew up in a particular environment we will recreate it in our own lives and families because we believe it is "normal" or "right" or "expected".

I believe that we are attracted to what is known. We grew up with certain situations and environments being "home" and those situations and environments are what we feel we know and are familiar with; even though they may not be "safe" we grew up with them and know how to survive with them. We are pulled toward those who create that "known".